“Who sleeps, really? If you’re a proper adult person in the 21st century, how can you relax, at all? Your mind keeps churning. You think, “What if this thing happens?! What if that thing happens?! What if they happen together?! What if I lose my job?! I hate my fucking job! But what if I lose it?” Your mind is a hive of worms. And worms don’t live in a hive, so it already feels unnatural. You lie in bed, beside your partner… “What if I died?!” If you don’t have a partner, you just think, “What if I died? …Okay, I would be dead.” But if you do have a partner and family, you’d think, “What if I died? How would they cope?” They wouldn’t! They would be out in the street in half an hour, stealing food from seagulls mouths! Or worse! They WOULD cope! They’d have a much nicer, cleaner house! And an improved sense of self-worth. Probably more money! And inevitably your partner would find somebody within the first 3-4 days, and begin a tumultuous sexual relationship. They would be having sex a lot in your bed when you were dead! The morning, the afternoon, the evening, and the night time would be the main times they would be having sex, in your bed, when you were dead. Feeding each other lobster with their bare hands, to give each other more energy.”—Dylan Moran - Yeah, Yeah! (via jesterhorhay)
“If you’re twenty-two, physically fit, hungry to learn and be better, I urge you to travel - as far and as widely as possible. Sleep on floors if you have to. Find out how other people live and eat and cook. Learn from them- wherever you go.”—Anthony Bourdain (via thatkindofwoman)
Obligatory End of the Year List: Best Things I Ate in 2011
Yeah. I like movies and music and tv. But I fucking LOVE food. So here’s a list of the best foods I ate in 2011.
Pictures aren’t mine. (Wish they were though)
10. Shrimp Rolls - An-Ping, Taiwan
Shrimp rolls are deep fried shrimps with veggies that you dip in a bomb-ass spicy sauce. I first ate them after a day laying on the beach.
9. Double Fried Korean Chicken - New York City
Eaten at 2am after dancing in a club. Spicy as hell and fried as fuck.
8. Kuma’s Corner Burger - Chicago, IL
This wasn’t the burger. Mine was more garlic-y. Eaten on one year love anniversary. Also, this is a heavy metal restaurant. And its awesome.
7. Thirsty Whale Steak Nachos - Algonquin, IL
So, I had never had steak on my nachos before. And that night opened up a world of possibilities. Life-changing opportunities.
6. Taiwanese Fried Chicken - Tainan, Taiwan
I realize this is the second fried chicken on the list, but it is a totally different experience. Eat it on the street out of a bag after the sun goes down. Add some fried fish and green beans and spices. Die happy.
5. Red Mango Frozen Yogurt - Northbrook, IL
I know, I know. I sound like some yuppity lady. But this shit is awesome. Make sure you get it with mochi. And I could it everyday. Once, I went to one of the express ones where you just add as much as you want, and it gets priced based on weight. It cost me nine dollars. NINE DOLLARS FOR AN ICE CREAM AND I DIDN’T REGRET IT.
4. Kimchi Beef Stew - My Own Freaking Kitchen
This is one of my boyfriend’s favorite dishes, so I challenged myself to get it right. And goddamn if I didn’t do too bad.
3. Spicy Hot Pot - Tainan, Taiwan
Spicy and communal and a buffet. This is the perfect meal. Did I mention its basically a meat buffet?
2. Night Market Beefsteak (Ne-o-pie) -Taiwan
This is a wonderful dish. Best served at a night market at a table of strangers. You recieve a scalding hot metal plate full of noodles, an egg, veggies, a steak, and either pepper or spicy sauce. It cooks in front of you. I ate this several times a week. It smells awesome, is fun to eat, and makes your tummy happy.
This is truly the most delicious thing I have ever eaten. Thinly shaven frozen milk covered in fresh mangos and condensed milk. The first bite is heavenly, but each bite gets better and better as all the flavors melt together.
Sigh. Clearly, I love Asian food and was blessed to travel and taste this year. Sometimes, I hate my thighs, but when I look back on what made them this year, I have no regrets. Here’s to an equally delicious 2012.
I don’t know why I didn’t go through my teenage body modification period when I was actually a teenager. All I wanna do lately is pierce my body. Right now I just have my nose. But I want my eyebrow and monroe, etc.. lately. I can’t have face piercings at stupid work, so I know I won’t do it. But I want to so freaking bad. Too bad I’m a grown-up now.
“In many cases, offenders will also try to reframe the assault after it happens…This kind of behaviour is not uncommon, says Quadara. “Some men would send follow-up text messages asking their victim out again. In other instances, particularly drink-spiking or drugging, the perpetrator told them that they were wild, that they were up for it. They imposed their version of events on the victim/survivor.” And, often, it works.
“Survivors sometimes think, ‘Am I confused here?’” says Quadara. “Maybe he has absolutely no idea. In many instances, they give their attackers the benefit of the doubt until they’re in serious emotional or physical distress.”
However, while a flirty phone call or text message could be interpreted to suggest a genuine misunderstanding, Quadara says this is not the case. “When you get into the detail of these stories, how they progressed from one step to the next, you see a very deliberate unfolding of behaviour designed to get someone into a vulnerable position,” she says.
“You think because he doesn’t love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn’t want you anymore that he is right — that his judgement and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. You think he belongs to you because you want to belong to him. Don’t. It’s a bad word, ‘belong.’ Especially when you put it with somebody you love. Love shouldn’t be like that. Did you ever see the way the clouds love a mountain? They circle all around it; sometimes you can’t even see the mountain for the clouds. But you know what? You go up top and what do you see? His head. The clouds never cover the head. His head pokes through, beacuse the clouds let him; they don’t wrap him up. They let him keep his head up high, free, with nothing to hide him or bind him. You can’t own a human being. You can’t lose what you don’t own. Suppose you did own him. Could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? You really want somebody like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don’t, do you? And neither does he. You’re turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean any more to him? He can’t value you more than you value yourself.”—Toni Morrison (via ancestryinprogress)
Last weekend, I finally came out to my dad. I’ve been “trying” to come out to him for about a year now, but every time the opportunity came around, I chickened out. But I finally did it, and it went better than I could have ever imagined! He asked me if I was…
“Dress suitably in short skirts & strong boots, leave your jewels in the bank, & buy a revolver.”—Countess Markievcizv, 19th century Irish revolutionary, dispensing eternally relevant fashion advice. (via sharkyteeth)
“Since her death in 1979, the woman who discovered what the universe is made of has not so much as received a memorial plaque. Her newspaper obituaries do not mention her greatest discovery. […] Every high school student knows that Isaac Newton discovered gravity, that Charles Darwin discovered evolution, and that Albert Einstein discovered the relativity of time. But when it comes to the composition of our universe, the textbooks simply say that the most abundant atom in the universe is hydrogen. And no one ever wonders how we know.”—Jeremy Knowles, discussing the complete lack of recognition Cecilia Payne gets, even today, for her revolutionary discovery. (via alliterate)
I submitted to Project Unbreakable earlier this week, and my submission went up today. Its an amazing project, and I am proud to contribute. I’m proud to be part of a family of survivors, and I know every day I’m stronger.